Here are some fast facts about things that many non-Jews want to know about a Bar Mitzvah

1.   Anyone can wear a yarmulke (kippah).  A yarmulke is worn as a gesture of respect to God in the sanctuary.  It's optional in a Reform temple like the one where Ryan's bar mitzvah will take place.

2.    A service at many Reform temples will last from 60-90 minutes.  Sometimes people come late to the service. 

3.    People will go in and out of the sanctuary during the service.  Sometimes young kids will go in and out and even up and down the aisles. 

4.    Non-Jews don't have to do everything the congregants do.  Non-Jews do not say prayers where it is assumed that the speaker is Jewish; prayers that refer, for example to God's Covenant with the Jewish people.  Out of respect, it is a nice gesture if non-Jews stand when the congregation stands.  Other than that, do what makes you comfortable.

5.    You don't have to know Hebrew to get something out of the service.  Ryan and his family will be putting together a program booklet that will guide you step by step through his bar mitzvah service, including English translations and explanations wherever possible.

6.   Most people dress up.  While there is no specific dress code, women wear dresses, suits or dressy pantsuits.  Men wear suits.  People dress as they would for a formal wedding.

7.  And most importantly:  HAVE FUN!!!  This is a joyous occasion that Ryan is thrilled to share with his family and friends!